1. Stick to your guns on the details being argued over. 2. Be prepared to walk away from the argument if its going no where. 3. Be prepared to abandon the relationship.
Not very lengthy or helpful when you look at it.
The time between 1 and 3 for me was quite short, about 3 months. But I let him do the leaving. I just threw the bolt on the door after he left.
Being poly did help alot. Joe treated me well. As I began to realize, the way I should be treated. I also had 2 other women supporting me and helping me make decisions. One being my best girlfriend. The other is/was a square dance caller and was formally known as a big ole dyke until she met another caller at the club where you and I met.
I am just very glad I got away. The other girl in that relationship is still in it. It took some counseling to repair the damage to my self esteem, but I got out & that's the important thing
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Date: 2007-06-06 09:50 pm (UTC)1. Stick to your guns on the details being argued over.
2. Be prepared to walk away from the argument if its going no where.
3. Be prepared to abandon the relationship.
Not very lengthy or helpful when you look at it.
The time between 1 and 3 for me was quite short, about 3 months. But I let him do the leaving. I just threw the bolt on the door after he left.
Being poly did help alot. Joe treated me well. As I began to realize, the way I should be treated. I also had 2 other women supporting me and helping me make decisions. One being my best girlfriend. The other is/was a square dance caller and was formally known as a big ole dyke until she met another caller at the club where you and I met.
I am just very glad I got away. The other girl in that relationship is still in it. It took some counseling to repair the damage to my self esteem, but I got out & that's the important thing